8 Online Dating Tips for Guys Who Really Want to Find a Date

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Jakovljevic advises that you know what kind of relationship you are looking for before you dive into online dating. You can choose to have a casual relationship, serious relationship or rendezvous with someone you don't mind putting your name on.

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2. Try to imagine yourself as a potential match.

Try imagining yourself as your potential partner to help you get the most out of online dating. Jakovljevic recommends creating a female profile and watching how men interact with it.

"Most women receive dozens of messages. Only a handful of them stand out." It can be quite eye-opening," Jakovljevic says.

3. Show, don’t tell.

Jakovljevic states that the number one mistake men make is to write about their characteristics rather than showing them. It's not the same thing to say "I'm really funny" and share a hilarious story about your profile.

He advises, "If someone tells me they're really great, one thing I can be certain of is that they aren't."

Instead of just saying it, think about the message you wish to convey. You might also want to ask, "What introduction would I like to keep reading?"

Avoid removing potential dates. You don't want to say "must have a good time" or be too adventurous to swipe right. Do not be critical or bossy. Keep it positive.

4. You might not think you have the best profile picture.

Jakovljevic says that the worst image you can post to get women to respond to your message is one where you are smiling and looking directly at the camera. A man looking away from the camera is more effective than a smiling face.

Women love to see men's focus and intensity. He says he imagines a picture of you playing pool and focusing on making shots.

To get the best results, include a photo of yourself in a social setting as well as another one showing you doing something. For the former, it is important to create curiosity and spark conversation. For example, photos that show you behind the scenes with a band, or in an area less visited, are a great way to spark curiosity. Your prospective match will be able to ask, "How is that possible?" Or "What was he doing?"

5. Personalize your greeting

Forget the "hey, what's happening?" message. Send a personal message instead. Your initial greeting should reflect your interest and show that you have taken the time to review her profile.

OKCupid's study found that messages that include "you mention" in addition to an interest she lists, or messages suggesting a shared interest, have a higher chance of receiving a reply.

Jakovljevic advises against using text talk and physical compliments when exchanging messages. Incorrect spelling and grammar are also bad habits that can make a bad first impression.

While you might think phrases like "ur hot", "omg, so sexy" will flatter the receiver, Jakovljevic claims that women actually read these messages all the time. You can make your message stand out by being creative and addressing their interests more than their looks.

This may seem obvious but it is worth repeating: Don't go for the "nudes" immediately. You should avoid asking for sex in the first stage. Jakovljevic states that it is one of the most infuriating ways to begin a conversation.

7. Ask her out if you like her.

Jakovljevic suggests creating a plan to meet up if you feel a connection. Do not ask for her numbers as a step forward. Do you really want to move awkward conversations from one platform onto another? It's better to get to the point and meet up to see if you jive IRL than wait for nerve-wracking iMessage ellipsis.

8. Do not play games.

While online dating can be a unique experience for every person, Jakovljevic advises his clients to not play games. Nobody wins.

"If you don’t like someone, it’s okay to say so. He says that if you are interested, don’t try to make it difficult or unavailable. "If it doesn't work out, be honest and open about it. You're filtering people who don't match what you are looking for."